In this series Getting That Stubborn Stain Out we have been talking about the use of COFHE to deal with stubborn marriage problems. Our last post, Committed to a Covenant covered the letter C. So now let’s take a look at the letter O.
Many times in our Marriage Builders class we have couples come in with the main objective of getting their spouse fixed. While neither husband or wife claim to have achieved perfection, they are set on believing that the only reason their marriage has problems is because of their spouse. Each one will admit to the things they do wrong, but they weigh their own faults in a balance against their spouse’s faults and it always leans in their favor. And many times they claim the reason for their bad behavior is in reaction to their spouse’s bad behavior. “If she/he didn’t do this then I wouldn’t do that.” The old “they started it” routine that we used when we were children. Continue reading